5 Easy Ideas That Improve Your Sex Life



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If you read my blog you know I talk alot about how to bring sexy back. A few months ago I posted about the different Sexual Lifestyles. Maybe that’s not for you so I wanted to talk about easy ways to tweak your daily habits that can change the Intimacy in your relationship dramatically.



Sex And Intimacy

Perhaps you’ve heard the saying “Marriage or Long-term relationships are where sex goes to die!”. That may be exaggerating a bit but in every committed relationship, there will be a sex rut at some point. Some will question why and think perhaps they don’t feel that person like they once did.


It can be confusing because you still feel attracted, you still feel love. It is because of life. We have so much going on that Intimacy and sex tend to drift farther and farther down the list of priorities. You connect your partner to all of the stressful, mundane things of everyday life.


Just do it! Have you heard this? You tell someone you and your partner aren’t having sex and they tell you to just do it. It isn’t that simple. We need to feel wanted, we need the sexual tension. That is what makes it so exciting in the beginning. It is also a common reason people stray. When we have been a couple awhile we need to be more creative and adventurous.

Relationships take daily nurturing and with these simple habits you can turn things around in no time.

Sleep Naked


Less than 12% sleep naked. There was a time I wouldn’t have given this much thought. For me, often it was just habited to throw the t-shirt on. My excuse was I didn’t  want everything flopping around or I was cold. You would be amazed how much this small thing can rev up intimacy.

The best reason to do it is nothing feels better than the skin on skin contact. It actually increases the love hormones that make you want to have sex. If you need more reason to get back to basics check out these benefits:

  • Regulates Cortisol
  • Reduces Anxiety
  • Prevents Skin Infection
  • Normalizes Body Temperature
  • Aids Anti-aging
  • Increases Sperm Production
  • Prevents Yeast Infection
  • Aids Weight Loss


Be Someone Else

Trying new things is essential. A really fun way to add a little adventure is Role Playing. Who doesn’t have an office fantasy? No? Well, there are lots of options. Be the other Man or Woman. Have an affair with your spouse. Pick an alter ego and plan a clandestine meeting where you are the actors. I love the idea of being someone else for a night.




Public Naughtiness

Location! Location! Location! If your sex life is getting routine expressing yourself or even getting busy in a public place can definitely heat things up. Don’t get arrested or anything but the fun is the risk of exposure. It doesn’t always have to be the main event either. Touching under the table or making out in an Elevator works just as well. I think we all have one of these stories. The point is being intimate and making it fun whenever you can.



What has happened to flirting? It seems like this is the first thing we stop doing in a long term relationship. I really think flirting, in general, has been lost somewhere. That makes me sad that we have become so guarded. It can fun and harmless. It can be that special way you look at them (like a tasty treat) or a text in the middle of the day. It doesn’t even have to be thought out. Try sending out a text that says “I Want You”. You will be amazed at the response you get.

Lingerie and costumes once in a while can add something extra. Women tend to feel sexier when they are wearing it. Honestly, I think men just want to see us naked.




Touch And Kiss More

You wouldn’t think this would become an issue, would you? Couples don’t touch or kiss often enough. The Chinese believe you need 10 hugs a day to be emotionally healthy. They aren’t so far off, think about how you feel when you’re touched it warms you from the inside out and makes you feel connected to the toucher.

These are easy ideas to add to your daily life that will start reigniting the connection with your partner and start having more sex. Things we know but think we are too busy. You have to think of it as the foundation. Without it, everything falls apart.


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  • klaudia October 17, 2016

    I love that post . Very true and some great realistic tips you are giving. It is actually not difficult to keep the thrill in a long term relationship. Even after almost 36 yrs , there is no morning without a good morning kiss nor do we leave the house or come back without a kiss kiss 😊 Sleeping naked goes without saying where I live. And being flirty , naughty , childish now and again is essential in any relationship. So , I think I could say … all doing right 😊 maybe not as often as 30 yrs ago , but hey … LOL
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    • Heidi October 17, 2016

      Thats great. It is but its also easy to forget

  • Jennifer kelly October 18, 2016

    I am happy to say my sex life doesn’t need any help but if it did these are all great tips!
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    • Heidi October 18, 2016

      or maybe anyway:)

  • Christine Tatum October 18, 2016

    Woo-hoo! Party in the bedroom. Wait my husband is sleeping and the 2 dogs will be between us when I go to bed. Rut-row. I guess we will have to read this together – tomorrow. 😳😳
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    • Heidi October 18, 2016

      ha hey a little spice is always nice

  • Elizabeth @ Ellie & Elizabeth October 18, 2016

    Twenty three years and counting and the spice is still there! Probably because we already do some of these tips. Great advice for any couples needing to rev it up a little. Never have done the role playing…may have to try that one, lol).
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    • Heidi October 18, 2016

      I know right! Thanks

  • Aish Padihari October 18, 2016

    Honestly, as I grow older, I feel that, my sex life is getting crazy good. Much better than how we started. Is it because I’m emotionally more tuned to my guy? Whatever it is, I hope it never slows down. 😉
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    • Heidi October 18, 2016

      Things change when we hit forty, I am writing about it:)

  • Stacy October 18, 2016

    Great tips, thank you!

  • Skipah October 19, 2016

    Couldn’t agree more :). Step out of your skin and have some damn fun when it comes to “thunder under the covers” :).
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    • Heidi October 19, 2016

      I couldn’t agree more, if it’s not fun why bother

  • Super Healthy Cooking October 19, 2016

    I think the solutions sometimes easier then we think! 🙂

    • Heidi October 19, 2016

      It usually always is:)

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  • Jacqueline May 23, 2017

    My lovely friend who’s trying to get pregnant has a lack lustre love life with her husband. I just sent her this link via instant messenger

    • Heidi May 23, 2017

      Aw thanks, I hope it helps

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