Getting Married? What You Need To Consider
Are you about to start planning a wedding or are you thinking about taking the next step and getting married? If you’re in a relationship, and you’re considering getting married, it’s essential to make sure that you’re ready. Before you start booking venues or ordering dresses, it’s wise to ask yourself if you’re really ready to say I do. If you’re unsure, here are some questions to think about.
Are you rushing into marriage?
Marriage is a lifelong commitment. It’s not something you should ever rush into. Even if you got engaged soon after meeting somebody, this doesn’t mean that you have to get down the aisle as quickly as possible. There’s nothing wrong with having a long engagement or taking a year or two to enjoy each other’s company and plan a wedding if that’s what you want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to get married as soon as you get engaged, or to get engaged just because other people around you are tying the knot, or your parents are making comments about your marital status. This is a decision you must make as a couple. It can be hard to ignore external influences, but try and put yourselves first. If you want to wait, take your time.
Are you trying to make real life into a fairytale?
As kids, we all dream of finding that perfect person, and enjoying the dream wedding day. Sadly, real life doesn’t always live up to our expectations. If you’re thinking of getting married, make sure it’s the real deal before you start trying on lace gowns, sampling red wines or ordering palladium wedding bands.
It’s easy to fall in love with the idea of happy ever after and create a fairytale version of what’s going on in real life. But don’t lose sight of reality. If you haven’t met Prince Charming yet, there’s nothing to say that you won’t in the future. Don’t get married for the big day and the celebration that ensues. Get married because you love somebody, and you genuinely cannot imagine life without them.
Are you happy?
This may seem like the most stupid question to ask somebody who has recently got engaged, but it’s perhaps the most important. It sounds silly to think that people who are considering getting married would be anything other than blissfully happy. But some people go through their engagement questioning whether they’ve made the right choice, and wondering if this really is it.
If you have doubts, or you’re wondering whether you were right to get engaged, take your time. If it’s not right, it’s better to make that call beforehand. Sometimes, you can convince yourself that you’re with the right person when really they’re not your perfect match. Perhaps you’re scared to go your own way, or you don’t want to hurt them. Put your happiness first. In the long-run, it’s better to be honest.
If you’re thinking about getting married, or you’re planning your future with your partner, make sure you’re 100% ready to say I do before you start sorting table plans or booking wedding cars. It’s best to take your time and make sure you make the right decision than rushing into something you may later regret.