The Pros And Cons Of Growing Up Sarcastic

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Growing Up Sarcastic

The very word itself originates from the Greek word Sarkasmos, meaning to tear flesh or rage.
Th.is is the last week of the blogging challenge. I had to come up with a post that began in Growing Up. Well, I grew up sarcastic. I can’t tell you if there is a member of my family who isn’t sarcastic. I don’t really know what it’s like to not be sarcastic. So when my husband asked me at the start of our marriage, why are you so sarcastic?  I looked at him in that what the hell are you talking about way.
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THE OFFICIAL DEFINITION

I looked up the official definition and it goes a little something like this: An ironic or satirical remark that seems to be praising someone but is really taunting or cutting. Sarcasm can be used to hurt someone or for comic effect.
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So later, when he met my father and my brother it was an aha moment for my better half. Someone who is genetically affected with that particular defect doesn’t really understand the hurt that occurs. We aren’t purposely being malicious though it may seem that way.
For me it’s second nature and my intent has always been to be funny. I read a study that said that people use it out of Insecurity, Underlying Anger, and Social Awkwardness. I can associate with the last one but not the first two.
Over the last few years, I have come to realize that it can be a weapon. I’ve tried very hard to adjust how I use it. If you are also duly affected it’s wise to really listen to what you say and figure out if you would yourself be hurt.
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LESSONS LEARNED

What I’ve learned and quite frankly, keep learning is there are conditions when it is ok and not ok. I do slip sometimes there is no doubt about that. Directing it as someone isn’t ok. Often it will just be perceived as insulting.

 

I try to use it toward a situation in the funniest way possible,
You usually know the person or group you are talking to. Knowing how it will be received is very important. Sime people just won’t get it. When I am around my family it is so on because they get it and even expect it. Yes, it turns into a competition almost.
Watch your tone of voice. Anything can be taken wrong and if you have been sarcastic for a long time, it creeps into everything you say sometimes.
If you have one of us in your life, be patient!

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  • Anna R Palmer August 24, 2016

    I don’t know what you are talking about. 😉
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    • Heidi August 24, 2016

      At first I thought you were serious. Thanks for reading

  • Marsha August 24, 2016

    Ha! My mom is really sarcastic and my ex-husband would ask why she says mean things sometimes. I had to explain to him that it was just sarcasm lol! He took her so seriously.
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    • Heidi August 25, 2016

      My mom and dad and my brother are the same way so it was hard for me to realize there are good times and not so good.

  • Tatyana August 25, 2016

    Sarcasm has always been my go to in conversations, especially in awkward situations. Like you, I am realizing that there are good and bad times to use it, but it is so difficult to fight the urge to use it.

    This a good, and slightly humorous way to end your challenge!

    • Heidi August 25, 2016

      It is really hard, especially when making people laugh is your go to.

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