August 22, 2016
The Pros And Cons Of Growing Up Sarcasticlifestyle
Growing Up Sarcastic
The very word itself originates from the Greek word Sarkasmos, meaning to tear flesh or rage.
Th.is is the last week of the blogging challenge. I had to come up with a post that began in Growing Up. Well, I grew up sarcastic. I can’t tell you if there is a member of my family who isn’t sarcastic. I don’t really know what it’s like to not be sarcastic. So when my husband asked me at the start of our marriage, why are you so sarcastic? I looked at him in that what the hell are you talking about way.
THE OFFICIAL DEFINITION
I looked up the official definition and it goes a little something like this: An ironic or satirical remark that seems to be praising someone but is really taunting or cutting. Sarcasm can be used to hurt someone or for comic effect.
So later, when he met my father and my brother it was an aha moment for my better half. Someone who is genetically affected with that particular defect doesn’t really understand the hurt that occurs. We aren’t purposely being malicious though it may seem that way.
For me it’s second nature and my intent has always been to be funny. I read a study that said that people use it out of Insecurity, Underlying Anger, and Social Awkwardness. I can associate with the last one but not the first two.
Over the last few years, I have come to realize that it can be a weapon. I’ve tried very hard to adjust how I use it. If you are also duly affected it’s wise to really listen to what you say and figure out if you would yourself be hurt.
What I’ve learned and quite frankly, keep learning is there are conditions when it is ok and not ok. I do slip sometimes there is no doubt about that. Directing it as someone isn’t ok. Often it will just be perceived as insulting.
I try to use it toward a situation in the funniest way possible,
You usually know the person or group you are talking to. Knowing how it will be received is very important. Sime people just won’t get it. When I am around my family it is so on because they get it and even expect it. Yes, it turns into a competition almost.
Watch your tone of voice. Anything can be taken wrong and if you have been sarcastic for a long time, it creeps into everything you say sometimes.
If you have one of us in your life, be patient!