Life Truths We Usually Learn The Hard Way

Life Truths we learn the hard way

Life Truths We Wish We Knew Earlier


I bet you’ve come here today to learn something new and exciting? Well today isn’t going to be one of those days unless you’re under thirty, then maybe. This is going to be one of those posts where your mouth goes “mmhmm”.

There are a whole lot of things we think we didn’t learn until we reached that wisdom stage of life but the honest truth is people, usually, older relatives tell us these things over and over. Only we knew everything and pretty much just think “whatever” thinking about anything else while they are talking. Then there are those things we only learn when life has slapped us around a little.

Never Again

I’ll never drink again, I’ll never get married again, I’ll never love again, yadda, yadda. How many times do we say we will never again? That’s the setup, we totally will!


Choices Matter

Every day we make choices and much of the time our choices carry weight and affect others. Don’t make impulsive choices, think it out.

Live Honest

Once you start telling lies, you have to tell more lies to cover the lies you already told. At one point we even start believing our own lies and that is when you know you’ve crossed the line. I have been there and at one point I had to really examine why and realized telling lies was harder than being honest.

Happiness Is A Choice

Life isn’t short, in fact, it’s pretty damn long! It can be even longer when you’re miserable. Happiness isn’t tangible,it is a state of being. I remember times that were hard and being depressed or upset just made them harder so I choose to be happy no matter what.

True Friends

You really only have a few true friends in your lifetime. There are all kinds of friends and it’s important to know exactly which they are. We should have different types of friends in our life but be selective who we put our total trust into.

Haters Gonna Hate

I used to be one of those people who wanted everyone to like me. Some people just aren’t and it’s okay. Some people are not going to show respect no matter what you do. Many ask why? There really is no reason and your time is valuable, don’t waste it.


But I love Him/Her

Love is great but sometimes it’s not the answer. Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Some people just aren’t going to be right for you, it doesn’t change or cheapen the love.

You Can’t Control The Universe

This was definitely my issue! Getting hurt is the worst feeling, isn’t it? So we will do anything to avoid it even do whatever we can to keep things from happening, to keep people from hurting us. Truthfully, it isn’t possible and you may even force the negative outcomes you are trying to avoid.

Good People Do Bad Things

We have all done things we wish we could take back. Mistakes are a natural part of life. Humans have to tendency to assume that equals being a bad person. It doesn’t always mean that. We all have good and bad inside us.

If I Could Just — I Would Be Happy

We say this over and over about all sorts of things money, marriage, kids, jobs. For me it was skinny. I thought If I could just be skinny life would be perfect. So I got skinny and it wasn’t. Things can’t make you happy for longer than small moments of time if you don’t feel it.

What You Put Out, The Universe Gives Back

Ever hear why do bad things happen to good people? Or nice guys finish last. Utterly false! Things, even bad things just happen and they happen to everyone. If you put out negativity, you will get it back like a chain reaction.

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Safe Is Boring

It’s great to be cautious, I will admit that I am very cautious but I also take reasonable chances. If you never leap, you’ll never fall that’s for sure but you will miss out on so much that could have been. Be open to new things and taking a few risks.

Only One You

The greatest of life truths I learned was being authentic and that you won’t be for everybody but different is ok and should be celebrated. Never remake yourself to fit in someone else’s vision.


These are by far not the total sum of life truths I have learned but quite a few. What are some truths about life that you learned later and wished you had learned much sooner?



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  • Michael Noker November 4, 2016

    I think the one thing I would add is that it’s okay to walk away from bad situations. When good people do bad things, when the universe leaves you stranded in a crappy situation that isn’t working for you, when you hate your job, when your partner treats you poorly, when your friend is toxic – walk away. It’s perfectly okay. Yes, we should fight for those we love, but that also means loving yourself.
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    • Heidi November 5, 2016

      I agree totally, thanks for reading

  • Klaudia November 5, 2016

    Being a liar is actually a tough 24/7 job . Most liars have got one big issue – lack of a good memory . It would be just too much stress for me to remember always all the lies I told 😕 Tell the truth or tell nothing at all has always worked fine for me !
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  • carlana charles November 6, 2016

    All of the points mentioned resonated with me but the first one more so. I am constantly being confronted with the fact that my ‘nevers’ are coming back to bite me. Gosh, how I was a little prudish, know it all! Life teaches you, humbles you and reframes your perspective on so many things.

    • Heidi November 6, 2016

      Haha me too. I just don’t say the words anymore, than I don’t beat myself up when it happens

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