WHEN THEY DON’T LIKE YOUR MATE
Making a relationship work is hard when it’s just the two of you, you have to worry about. When you throw family and friends, coworkers etc into the mix it becomes that much harder. When any of these extensions of your life decide they don’t like your choice of mate it definitely creates its own set of problems.
I have encountered this problem on many levels in my life as I married the second time. I believe there are many variables to how this happens. When you meet someone new, it is mostly about you and that person. But when it becomes serious, all of a sudden you have to consider all the other people in your life too.
You may think to yourself, my friends and family have been a part of my life much longer so how they feel about this person matters. It does matter to a point.
The most important thing you have to realize, especially when you get married is that you become the familial unit. Where it used to be you and the family, it is now you and your mate and then the extended family. Often the extended family is thinking about how they feel not how you feel. You are not responsible for everyone’s feelings. It is really important to honor all of your loved ones but you must also remember that you and your mate are the central units.
FIND OUT WHY
CALL A MEETING
How often have you heard,” I’ll spend time with you in a seperate way?”.
This possibly can work if all parties don’t ever discuss the person but how can that happen? When someone is the largest part of your world it is impossible to keep them out of a conversation. The people in your life should want your happiness above all things. Making you choose or creating an uncomfortable situation is selfish.
Many times we have run into not liking people but we keep that to ourselves because that is polite behavior. How do you deal with this situation?