A Guide To Custody And Childcare After A Divorcedivorce
Custody And Divorce
Divorce is quite likely to be one of the most difficult things you will experience in your life, and unfortunately along with the heartbreak you have lots of practical matters to consider too. Things like property, finances and the well-being of the children will all be on your mind, with the latter being one of the issues which worry people most about splitting up for good. However it doesn’t have to be stressful for the children, and if you go into proceedings with a good frame of mind you can all come to a resolution that works for everyone. Here are some of the things to consider when sorting out childcare after a divorce.
Decide If You’re Settling Custody Matters In Or Out Of Court
Depending on the kind of terms your marriage ended on, it may be possible to sort out child custody out of court. Providing you’re both on the same page and are happy to put your differences aside for the sake of the children, you might be able to come to an agreement which suits you both. Unfortunately, there will be cases where this isn’t possible, and so matters will have to be sorted out legally. Often these kinds of situations are complex, and so in a lot of divorces finding good family law solicitors are an essential part of the process.
Consider Family Mediation
If you are looking to settle things out of court, it’s still a good idea to attend some family mediation sessions. This is a voluntary and confidential process, which helps both partners to reach agreements about the practical matters of splitting up. It’s not marriage counselling and is not designed to give you advice on your relationship or help you to get back together.
It’s an impartial, neutral and safe setting in which you are able to work with a mediator and make joint decisions about the future. Mediation can help you work out your differences in regards to custody and help you come to an agreement without the expense of going to court.
Don’t Blame Yourself
No one goes into a marriage hoping for divorce however ,life does happen and it’s important not to blame yourself. Whether you grew apart or split up due to infidelity or other reasons, the fact remains that the relationship was no longer right. So choosing to leave it is a brave step and the right thing to do, don’t punish yourself for not ending up with the lifelong marriage you dreamed of. After a divorce, you get a chance to focus on yourself again, as well as make a great life for your children.
See The Positives
One of the main concerns, when you’re getting divorced, is the happiness and wellbeing of the children. There can be a stigma attached to divorce with the assumption that it’s not a good thing for children. However that’s just not true, and in many cases, it can actually be a positive thing.
It means there is no more conflict in your daily lives which can be a huge relief to children to have endured parents arguing for a long time. Even if you’ve never outright argued in front of them, the bad atmosphere caused by snide comments and passive-aggressive remarks can be picked up on causing a lot of tension and stress.
See the positives, with the negative atmosphere removed you’re free to get on with being the best parent you can possibly be.