Is Your Marriage In Trouble?
No one who goes into marriage ever imagines it won’t be forever. But sadly statistics in the United States show that around 50% of marriages end in divorce. There are many reasons that marriages fail. From tying the knot too young to financial stresses and infidelity to constant arguing.
Each break up is so personal that it would be impossible to give a solid answer as to why couples divorce. But there are signs you can be aware of if you are worried that your marriage is failing. And recognizing these signs can help you make an informed decision as to whether to work on your marriage or decide to part ways.
This is one that certainly hits hard. When you find out that your spouse has been unfaithful you automatically lose the friendship and trust that you have based your relationship on. Infidelity breaks the vows you made on your wedding day.
It will breed anger, despair, and insecurity. You will feel let down, heartbroken and disappointed. And your emotions will be all over the place. You are entirely within your legal rights to ask for a divorce on the grounds of infidelity. It is often such a huge betrayal that it’s something you simply cannot get past. If you are at that point, then it is time to hire a divorce lawyer and start legal proceedings.
But if you find you are constantly arguing, always picking at each other and never resolving anything, then things may have gone too far.
If your arguments become more severe, and hurtful words are often thrown around, then it may be a sign that divorce is on the cards. If you are constantly made to feel small, devalued and inferior, then this is a big warning sign. Marriage counseling may be an option you want to explore, but if the arguing continues and you are going round in a vicious circle, it could be time to call time on your union. Especially if it’s something that is affecting your children in negative ways.
Maybe you got married in the first flushes of romance. Perhaps you had rose tinted glasses on. As you grow together, it may become increasingly apparent that you are in fact, actually growing apart. Perhaps one of you is completely career focused, and the other would like to start a family. Or maybe you place a lot of importance on seeing your extended family, but your partner would rather isolate themselves more.
Money, career opportunities, friends and family dreams can all change the person you fell in love with. If you both see two very different futures now, it may be time to consider a divorce. If you want to live a self-sufficient life in the country with 2.4 children, and your spouse wants to live a materialistic city life with no children and a high-powered job, you are never going to be on the same page.
People change throughout the course of their lives for many different reasons. And if your goals aren’t matching up, then it may be time to go your separate ways.
Marriage is a long-term commitment that requires faithfulness, trust, and compatibility. If either of you has given up, it’s a sign that divorce is imminent.