Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
Feeling love and passion for your partner inevitably means there will be fighting!
A healthy relationship that is passionate carries strong feelings so it is normal to have arguments whether your dating or married. It reveals your level of caring and you aren’t afraid of each other. Issues most couples tend to fight about:
  • family
  • money
  • time
  • intimacy
  • housework
  • attention

fightWhat you want to pay attention to is how you are fighting and how much, there are a few different arguing styles

Fight Styles

  • those who want to resolve the issue
  • those who want to be heard
  • those who need to be right
  • those who don’t wanna deal with it at all
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The problem with any fight, like a boxing match there are two people struggling to be the winner. Unfortunately, nobody really wins. 69 percent of issues that come up in a yelling match are never solved. You are so loaded with emotion you can’t see the issue.
In my first marriage, we didn’t see for years that we were opponents who had nothing without the battle. Today my current husband and I don’t really fight very often however, we discuss a lot.
Important things to remember to fight efficiently:
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  • calm down
  • don’t use words like always and never
  • don’t get off the topic

So often because we are angry we think this is an opportunity to throw up every little thing that our partner does in an argument that we forget the issue at hand. Which is why the knockdown, drag-out battle never works.

 

Don’t fight in the bedroom! All of your really great times happen here {sleeping and sex} don’t fill your precious space with negative energy.
If you’re not with someone you can have open, honest conversation with then maybe the issue is much bigger than the argument at hand.
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I’m a big believer in lists so when you’re angry to consider getting it down on paper along with possible solutions.
Get over the need to be right.
The great thing about people and relationships is that they are always evolving. Of course with that, there can be issues like adjusting and feelings changing and that’s why there’s work involved.
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Very often this taxes a relationship to the point of one partner pulling away but if you keep the door to dialogue open there no wall that can’t be climbed, remembering why you chose your partner in the first place. So don’t ever stop talking. Get your feelings out to avoid the volcano effect.

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